There has been a lot of hardcore honesty going on around me these days. While much of it does not involve me directly, a lot of this hardcore honesty has been coming through me, while in other cases it has been coming toward me. I am seeing life more and more as a fucked-up, unpredictable spiritual unfolding than a journey from destination A to destination B and I am seeing this honesty as a blazing hot iron brand that leads deeper into the mystery of the unknown.
When I’m talking hardcore honesty, I’m talking hardcore here. Like, you smell bad and your dancing makes me want to vomit. Like, I love you so much but at the same time you are so fucking stupid I can barely contain my disdain. While this all may seem really “mean” and “unnecessary,” I know that we are moving quite rapidly toward a telepathic society, so all of these “mean” thoughts are going to be as transparent as some decade-old tighty-whiteys (nice simile huh).
If that one lost you, it’s like this. You have mean thoughts about your lover, your family, your friends, and random people on the street every single day of your life. Deny this and well, maybe it’s time to read someone else’s blog. So you have all these mean thoughts going on all the time and often, you have the same mean thoughts about the same person regularly. Like, your voice is so annoying when you sing that I have to leave the room. Stuff like that. Well, here’s a novel idea. Tell the person your meanest thoughts about them. Tell them all the things you don’t like about them. Just get it all out on the table.
And you know what you find. You find it’s fucking scary. You find it’s the scariest thing you have ever done in your life, especially if you are a “nice” or “spiritual” person. And the reason that it’s scary is that this willingness to be honest signals a willingness to let go of the person. You are finally accepting them as they are. Rather than accepting a part of them and hiding your hatred of all of their annoying parts, you are actually taking them in at face value. They actually know exactly what you think of them. And they are then in a more empowered place to choose how they want the relationship to continue, or to change, or to disappear.
But there’s a silver lining. In fact, there is a silver lining in pretty much everything I will ever write about. And the silver lining in this case is that you have shown the universe a deeper willingness to let go. To choose honesty and truth over lies and deceit and appearances and facades. And the universe rewards you. The universe rewards you with greater truth and deeper honesty and bonds with other humans that are stronger than iron.
But the universe may forge those iron bonds with fire. Potentially scarring and painful fire. BUT! I swear there’s a but! But if you just keep falling, keep vomiting honesty and spreading it throughout your interactions–telling people not only mean things about themselves, but vulnerable things about YOURself–you might just find people who really like YOU and who YOU really like wandering into your life.
Because there is no more lying, there is no more hiding, so the universe is able to provide a clearer mirror of who and what you really are. It’s amazing to think that our fear of honesty–of telling the deep hard-to-say-hard-to-hear truth–is actually preventing us from living the lives we are capable of living.
So I say keep going for it. Keep diving towards honesty. The road is often rocky, and you will most likely get bloody along the path, but isn’t that the point? To go where no man has gone before. To see a deeper, brighter, sharper truth than has ever been seen before. We are here to blaze a new trail, to shine a new light, and as far as I can tell, the more honesty you can muster, the brighter the light you will shine.
2012 looms!
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